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Lucy Kalanithi: Work, life, grief, love

BMJ 2018; 361 doi: (Published 25 April 2018) Cite this as: BMJ 2018;361:k1220

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But thy eternal summer shall not fade (Shakespeare Sonnet18)

Grieving is bittersweet. At first, we are overwhelmed with the shock and bitterness of losing a loved one. But after a while, after the shock starts to wear off, we begin to reminisce about the sweetness that we shared with our loved one. Still later, after the bitterness and sweetness begin to recede, we start analyzing our relationship with our loved one, and come to new understandings. Since the grieving process is lengthy and complex, but productive, we should give ourselves ample time to go through the whole process and come out a better person. 

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01 May 2018
Hugh Mann
New York, NY, USA