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Grieving is bittersweet. At first, we are overwhelmed with the shock and bitterness of losing a loved one. But after a while, after the shock starts to wear off, we begin to reminisce about the sweetness that we shared with our loved one. Still later, after the bitterness and sweetness begin to recede, we start analyzing our relationship with our loved one, and come to new understandings. Since the grieving process is lengthy and complex, but productive, we should give ourselves ample time to go through the whole process and come out a better person.
Death is deadly, but hope is heady. So although war and sickness spoil living and loving, dreams foil death by toiling for peace and health. To quote John Donne, "Death be not proud, though some have called thee mighty and dreadful, for thou art not so".