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I can’t stand him (or her)

BMJ 2017; 356 doi: https://doi.org/10.1136/bmj.i6735 (Published 19 January 2017) Cite this as: BMJ 2017;356:i6735

What is Health?

Health is metabolic efficiency. Sickness is metabolic inefficiency. Nobody is totally healthy or totally sick. Each of us is a unique combination of health and sickness. And each of us has a unique combination of abilities and disabilities, both emotional and physical.

As we grow up, we learn that we are loved for our abilities, but hated for our disabilities. This happens at home, at play, at school, and at work. Sometimes, this even happens with our doctors, especially if our disabilities mystify them or remind them of their own hidden disabilities.

So, we try to hide our disabilities from people and from ourselves. Sadly, this charade undermines our relationships and our self-esteem. We learn to fear society and hate ourselves.

Self-hatred is the most debilitating sickness. It interferes with our ability to seek and accept help. And everybody needs help. How do we free ourselves from self-hatred?

First, we reclaim our disabilities, whether society accepts them or not. This means that we learn to accept ourselves. Then, we cope with our disabilities. This means that we learn to take care of ourselves. Self-care is healthcare.

Competing interests: No competing interests

22 January 2017
Hugh Mann
Physician
Retired
New York, NY, USA