Children get over bullying, study shows
BMJ 2017; 359 doi: https://doi.org/10.1136/bmj.j4628 (Published 05 October 2017) Cite this as: BMJ 2017;359:j4628All rapid responses
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Bullying is ubiquitous and iniquitous, but misunderstood. Although it’s usually considered sadism with vulnerable victims, bullying is actually a neuropsychiatric disorder (which I call “neuro-bullying”) that is rooted in our autonomic nervous system.
Our autonomic nervous system consists of two opposing branches: the sympathetic nervous system and the parasympathetic nervous system. The sympathetic system responds to fear and pain with hate and “fight or flight.” The parasympathetic system responds to trust and pleasure with relaxation and vulnerability.
Ideally, the sympathetic and parasympathetic systems are in dynamic balance. But just as fear and pain can overpower trust and pleasure, the sympathetic system can overpower the parasympathetic system. This causes us to fear and hate vulnerability, both in others and ourselves.
I propose that bullying is fear and hatred for the vulnerability of the parasympathetic system. This is why bullies target vulnerable groups like women and children, as well as the poor, elderly, disabled, and socially stigmatized.
Finally, the cure for bullying, and most social woes, is to protect the vulnerable, but vital, parasympathetic system, because vulnerability is not weakness or bleakness, but the greatness of meekness, the elixir of life and fixer of strife.
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Re: Children get over bullying, study shows
An extensive study of 134,229 adolescents aged 12-15 years in 48 Countries across multiple Continents revealed that past-year prevalence of suicide attempts was 32.7% for the “being bullied for 20-30 days/month” group.
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https://www.jaacap.org/article/S0890-8567(19)30209-6/fulltext
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