From cardiac anaesthetist to humanist officiantBMJ 2003; 327 doi: https://doi.org/10.1136/bmj.327.7417.748 (Published 25 September 2003) Cite this as: BMJ 2003;327:748
- Roger Fletcher, retired anaesthetist
My interest in non-religious funerals dates back to the death of my father. I was working abroad when he died; by the time I returned, things were cut and dried, and the funeral director had already engaged a local minister. The resulting service seemed a travesty, not only because we weren't a religious family, but also because the ceremony itself seemed in no way to recognise my father as an individual. There was scarcely any mention of his achievements, his love of his family, his principles, or the things he believed in, such as social justice. My mother and I left the crematorium feeling short changed.
My mother told me later that she did not want a religious funeral …