Personal Views

Silent suffering

BMJ 1995; 311 doi: https://doi.org/10.1136/bmj.311.7020.1647 (Published 16 December 1995) Cite this as: BMJ 1995;311:1647
  1. Jill Emery

    Iwould like to share with you my feelings on what it is like not to be able to have a child of our own. For years I was told to use contraception to prevent a pregnancy and idly went on taking the contraceptive pill until the time came for us to try for a baby. We had never really thought about having difficulties conceiving and it all came as a bit of a shock when we realised that there may be something wrong.

    Infertility manifests itself in many ways. Christmas is perceived as being a family occasion, but for me, and for many infertile couples this is the worst time of the year. I see family and friends going off to watch nativity plays and I long to be there, sitting in the audience, shedding a tear when I see our child walk on the stage.

    We face pain and heartbreak when friends and family have babies. We cannot avoid the situation but desperately wish …

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